One of my dear friends related to me something about the teaching of sex among Christian communities as related to him in a religious fireside by a psychologist. In brief, she said that sex is like a pool - but one you aren't allowed to swim in, touch, go near, look at, or even think about. Then, when you get married, you're thrown into the deep end and told "have a good time!"
Men I've dated and women I've talked with have had woefully lacking
or inaccurate knowledge about sex and reproduction. Women have told me
stories about how frightened they were about having sex with their own
husband because they were taught "it" was sinful and dirty and absolutely
not to be talked about, or they told me how painful it was, or how
confusing it was, or how absolutely embarrassed they felt because they
had no idea what to do.
The men seem to be more familiar with the
plumbing system - though most of it is admittedly learned from pornography, since mommy
and daddy weren't willing to talk with them about such a needful,
natural topic. I heard one man relate to me that it's supposed to hurt
for a woman to
get pregnant, and I thought...oh my God, those poor, poor women.
So,
it seems that there's yet another prevailing myth that must needs be
busted in the balls. SEX SHOULD NOT EVER EVER EVER BE PAINFUL,
even when it results in pregnancy. Ladies, go see your gynecologist if
you experience pain with intercourse; You men who think it's "normal" or
"okay" for your sexual partner to be in pain while you jack off inside
her body, you are monstrously wrong. It is NOT
normal for ANY woman to hurt during sex, and it isn't ever "okay".
If she is hurting and you aren't in a consenting sado-masochistic
union, then something is wrong. Get her to a doctor so you two can figure out how to make it pleasurable FOR THE BOTH OF YOU.
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